On Social Media Platforms like Facebook and Twitter the word “Grooming” is used as a loosely defined catch-all term for any gender or sexuality subject matter discussed with children by someone who isn’t a parent. The problem is this is really too broad to be used accurately, if we want to eliminate grooming, we need to define it more clearly, with examples of it being done. We’re going to follow the science, and I mean the REAL SCIENCE, not the pseudo science you’re told to follow without question. We’re looking at real word teachers, in their own words, telling you why they think it’s ok to teach your kids about sexuality and gender, and why it's ok to hide that information from parents.
First, we’re going to look at a research paper "School Employee Sexual Misconduct Red Flag Grooming Behaviors by Perpetrators" (PDF ) (DOI: doi.org/10.5772/intechopen.99234). This research paper looked 222 cases of school employee sexual misconduct, involving a student, that resulted in a sexual abuse conviction of the school employee. The goal of this research paper was to identify common grooming behaviors used by convicted sexual predators. This information could then be used to help teachers, colleagues and parents, spot the red flag behavior and intervene. We’ll be highlighting some of the findings we think are important, but we encourage you to read the paper on your own, and come to your own conclusions. Remember REAL SCIENCE isn’t afraid of people asking questions, and it will always hold up under scrutiny.
The first section we’re going to highlight is the Chart of Grooming Behaviors on page 4. The important parts to note are about keeping this secret, and not disclosing it to anyone, especially parents:
- Overcome resistance, maintain access, and minimized disclosure
- Form a special bond, keep secrets, special lures
- Prevent disclosure through grooming, threats, guilt, and fear
This is a really important aspect to be aware of, because almost every school that has LGBTQ or Transgender events, or has gender affirmation policies, has guidelines about keeping it secret, and not being required to disclose the information to the parents. The school will usually try to hide the notion that they are protecting the privacy of the students, what they are really doing is trying to prevent you from discovering that grooming behavior is taking place, and that someone is actively manipulating a child before the damage is done (see Lori Caldeira video below). If a child truly has questions about their gender identity or sexual orientation, the school should not be actively trying to hide that information from the parents.
You think we’re exaggerating about teachers intentionally hiding this information from parents, we’re not. Below is a video of teaching admitting she’s hiding it from parents, and how she does it.
Children often lack moral conviction to stand up to an authority figure or teacher who is trying to coerce them into doing something that they don’t believe in or agree with, for example participating in LQGBTQ Pride Week. Additionally, peer pressure and the desire to fit in can cause students to make choices they don’t necessarily agree with. If a student is in that situation, and they have been told to keep it secret from their parents, they could easily feel trapped and see just going along with it as the least painful way forward. This is exactly how people using Grooming Behavior gain control of other people’s children.
The other important piece of information we want to highlight from this page is Attenuate - Reduce resistance through slow progression and explanation of normalcy. This is the reason LGBTQ and Transgender teachers want to start talking about gender and sexuality with children as soon as possible, starting in kindergarten classes. The goal is to wear down their resistance to the ideas with regular, and constant exposure over a prolonged period of time. Bombarding children everyday, for years, with messages glorifying the benefits of LGBTQ or Transgender lifestyles, is brainwashing, plain and simple. There is no reason any adult should be having a discussion about sexuality with kindergarten, grammar school, or middle school age children. The reason they do it is because, YES They Really Are Trying To Convert Your Kids. You think we’re exaggerating about wanting to discuss gender identity with kindergarten age children, we’re not. Below is a video of a teacher explaining why he thinks it’s ok to talk about gender with his 5 year old students.
The next section we’d like to highlight is on
Grooming: Adults will try to normalize sexual conversations with children
page 9 and concerns adults having conversations about sexual topics with minors, from the research paper:
Grooming Behavior: Sexual Conversations"Adult conversations with students - often in the classroom or to groups of students during lunch or other non-class times - include sexual topics, personal disclosure of adult sexual activity and preferences, and questions to students about their sexual lives. These are disguised as "normal" interactions and topics with students, but they are grooming behaviors that seek to normalize sexual talk. These behaviors often go uninterrupted or only lightly reprimanded by other employees who overhear the boundary crossing conversations."
School Employee Sexual Misconduct: Red Flag Grooming Behaviors by Perpetrators - page 9
There is no reason for adults to be sharing information or details about their sexual lives or romantic preferences with children. The reason they are doing it is to normalize the behavior so students aren’t alarmed when the actual grooming starts to take place. It’s a huge red flag when teachers start bragging about sharing their sexuality preferences with their students. You think we’re exaggerating about teachers sharing their sexual preferences with children, we’re not. Below is a 5th grade teacher, and how glad he is about sharing his sexual preferences with 10 year old children.
This teacher lacks the self-awareness to realize he’s having a sexuality discussion with his kindergarten students while he’s admitting he’s discussing his sexual preferences with his students.
Additionally we’d like to highlight something else from
Grooming: Adults will try to normalize physical contact through hugging
page 9, the part discussing physical contact, specifically hugging, from the research paper:
Grooming Behavior: Hugging"Hugs are often normalized. For example, a teacher in an elementary school who hugs students in the hallway between classes and "when the kids would come in from recess" broadcasts an image of friendliness when the intent is to normalize inappropriate touching of children. The teachers who do this often portray this behavior as giving students extra support, "letting them know we care", a rationalization that is accepted by students, parents, and colleagues. In middle and high school, hugs are normalized across all students as praise or reward. That practice camouflages hugs for sexual purposes."
School Employee Sexual Misconduct: Red Flag Grooming Behaviors by Perpetrators - page 9
We understand that most people, including teachers, are not hugging people with malicious intent, and that they are doing it with the best of intentions. However when you have a teacher who is discussing sexuality and gender topics with their students, and is engaging in hugging, that should be a big red flag to everyone. If children are told to keep secrets from their parents, what happens when Mr. Johnson’s supportive hugs turn into Mr. Johnson’s inappropriate hugs, who are they going to tell? When you watch the videos on this page of real teachers talking about gender and sexuality with their students, do you think they are huggers, draw your own conclusions…
The last part we want to highlight is on
Grooming: gaining trust and control of everyone in the situation
page 12, and it discusses how the person engaging in grooming behavior, maintains control of the situation:
Grooming Behavior: Maintaining Control and Secrecy"All of the cases reviewed for this chapter include grooming behaviors by the school employee directed toward the student. Abusers used tactics to bond with the student by forming special relationships, keeping secrets, receiving special gifts, and one-on-one attention. Abusers also worked to keep the student reliant on the abuser for emotional support as well as for academic help and gifts Abusers worked hard to normalize boundary crossing so that these grooming behaviors would go unreported. When they were reported, abusers used traps and threats to prevent disclosure.
Individual targets were not the only ones groomed, however. Parents, siblings, and colleagues were also groomed to like and trust the abuser in an attempt to ensure that the grooming and sexual misconduct directed toward the student would go unreported. While understanding what grooming looks like will not stop all sexual exploitation of students, knowing the warning signs and red flags and reporting them immediately will go a long way in preventing sexual misconduct."
School Employee Sexual Misconduct: Red Flag Grooming Behaviors by Perpetrators - page 12
We point this out because parents are often oblivious to the warning flags that grooming is taking place. Stressed out parents often appreciate that a teacher has taken a special interest and is helping their child, completely unaware of the manipulation that occurs until it’s too late. Sadly we’re not exaggerating, at Buena Vista Middle School in California, gay rights activist Lori Caldeira recruited an 11 year old teen girl into an Equity Club and secretly used grooming behavior to convince the child she was transgender. She then intentionally hid that information from the girl’s parents for months, until the girl announced she wanted to start receiving hormone therapy.
Grooming is real, and YES they are trying to convert your children. There is scientific research into common warning signs, and we’ve shown factual real world proof that not only are teachers engaging in red flag behavior, it’s also already impacted children and their families. Unfortunately progressive leaders are empowering school administrators, and teachers to engage in grooming behavior. They enact policies allowing them to intentionally hide it from parents. The only way this is going to stop is if parents get involved, stop allowing Progressive Agendas to creep into lesson plans, and start actively shaping the curriculum, and voting out school board members that permit grooming behavior to take place. More importantly, parents need to adopt a zero tolerance policy for grooming behavior, including gender affirmation programs and sexuality discussions. Parents need to stop tolerating programs that elevate LGBTQ and Transgender awareness. Schools should not be having organized celebrations of sexual preferences or sexual activities for minors. This isn’t a problem that someone else is going to solve for you, it’s going to require that you get involved, and stop letting other people secretly manipulate your children.
- School Employee Sexual Misconduct: Red Flag Grooming Behaviors by PerpetratorsArchive by Charol Shakeshaft, Mitchell Parry, Eve Chong, Syeda Saima and Najia Lindh
- DOI: doi.org/10.5772/intechopen.99234archive
- Some videos were sourced from @LibsOfTikTokArchive
- How Activist Teachers Recruit KidsArchive by Abigail Shrier
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